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ch ch ch changes…

Good morning yogis!!! 

Change is afoot. Change is inevitable. Change is the one thing we can count on for sure….or can we? Yeah, totally we can.

Change comes. Sometimes we go to it, sometimes we run from it, sometimes we embrace it and sometimes we fear it. But change always comes.

Do you know the experience of your full life filling up your full days and not leaving time for much else? Do you also know the experience of getting INSPIRED, and SOMEHOW you seem to CREATE space in your life to ADD something that is IMPORTANT and you WANT to do…? Notice how you WORK REALLY HARD to put in all your time and effort, and you are run off your feet doing all the things you HAVE to do on a regular day to day basis, PLUS WHATEVER IT TAKES to accomplish the CHANGE your are NOW CREATING. Notice how inspired you are and how you don’t care about sleep, and how much you actually look forward to your lunch break spent working on the project, whatever it is…buying a new car, remodeling your house, getting your kids into college, building a business, preparing for a dinner party…you get the drift. We have all sorts of things in our lives that are obligatory, the things we HAVE to do like clean the toilet and get gas in the car…these things are not often inspiring or derivative of our passions, but we do them and make them happen and accept that they are part of daily living.

Change happens in our lives whether we are looking for it or not. Transition. Evolution. Doesn’t matter what you call it, there is no way you can keep everything the same in your life because that is not the nature of the world. 

I read an article the other day talking about mental attitude and how our thoughts dictate our emotions, physical sensations, etc. When you work out and your muscles are sore the next day, you feel excited that you did something, right? You take a “killer” yoga class and the next afternoon you are having trouble sitting down to pee or walking up and down stairs…but you love it!! Ha! You love it because you worked hard at it, you pushed yourself to create change and now you feel the results of your hard work. Reap the rewards. Now, imagine yourself waking up in the morning and rolling over and suddenly feeling a twang of muscle soreness in your back because you slipped and had to torque yourself suddenly so as not to crack your head on the ground…you slipped, not a big deal, you are fine…but the next day you feel it. You have to slowly sit up, slowly stand up, and it hurts to sit down and stand up too much. 

The emotional difference is that one is something that you created and one is something that was just handed to you. Same kind of physical sensations, right? Same kind of result in the physical body, but the emotional and mental difference is what makes all the difference…the sensations and results of doing full camel for the first time and slipping on the ice are almost identical, but one has you get out of bed, chuckle, bend, stretch, chuckle some more, grab your foam roller and tennis ball and get excited to go out and use your body!! The other, makes you not want to move, not want to get out of bed, feel sorry that it happened and reach for the Advil.

All change is the same, I think. Have you ever moved? Like a big move….how about a break-up? A big one. A new job? If you are the INSTIGATOR of change in your life, you move into it with excitement and forward energy, generally. If you are being “forced” to do something, like you got “dumped” or “fired” (such horrible meaning attached to these words!), then the resulting emotions, and physical sensations are laced with doubt, worry, anxiety, fear and overall blech energy…which is only forward moving because you can’t stay where you are anymore, they don’t want you!! Lol, we are such funny humans. If a relationship ends, it wasn’t the right fit anymore. If you lose your job, it’s not the right fit. If you choose that you want to lower your cost of living so as to have more money to raise your family, you choose to move to a different city where you can pay less rent and walk to work…it’s tough and difficult to make a move, to leave your home, to leave your friends and family and familiarity…but what is on the other side is so awesome too!! Thing is, with change, we never really know what is on the other side, so there isn’t that reward of knowing how the change is going to impact you…sometimes only an unknown, to which we can attach any kind of feeling or emotion. 

One of my mentors in my early adulthood used to say, “the only relationship you’ll ever have that ‘worked’ is the one that you’re in when you die”.

Be aware when you let your emotions dictate how you should feel…physically, mentally and spiritually…especially spiritually.

I love you, yogis!! I have been having a love affair with podcasts of a woman named Brene Brown…she has been studying shame (and other things), and is very inspiring!! More to come…

Have a great Saturday xox

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Around the world and back again

Good morning my Loves!!

I have just returned from my travels to Europe…and let me tell you, I am smitten beyond smitten!! Europeans love LOVE and I LOVED all the people and all the places that I got to meet, see and experience on my trip.

I took a ballet class the other night which I am excited to write about…because of all the things that occurred while in the class!

I cannot tell you all the amazing thins I ATE while I was away!! I am changing my handle, and I feel like I want to write a bit about my food journey the past months…stay tuned.

Yoga abounds in this amazing world, yogis. I had an amazing adventure, and I am SO happy to be back in the world that I am currently creating and living in day to day. My bed never felt so good as it did lastnight.

Till later, my Loves…I have lots to share 😉
Love,
Ida xx

From Paris, with Love

From Paris, with Love


Honesty trumps everything. Thoughts on my ten year anniversary!

Hello Kittens!

I am 5 days until the anniversary of teaching my very first yoga class. Bikram says it takes 10 years to become a teacher. On June 7th, it will be ten years since I taught my first class. May 31st was the ten year anniversary of my graduation. Whew. What a ride!!

If you asked me ten years ago today what I would be doing now…well, I’m sure teaching would be in the mix, as I was at teacher training, but I’m not sure I could have even fathomed where my job, my life, my yoga would have taken me, and all the things I would learn in the process.

Do you ever notice that parents always think their kids are the smartest kids? We have the opportunity, as adults, to actually witness small beings learning and experiencing new things pretty well every moment of their lives!! We, as adults, have learned it all, experienced it all, so we take the normal stuff for granted. Ever really allow yourself to experience the sourness of a lemon as though for the first time? How about looking at a flower, or a leaf, as though seeing the delicateness of the petals and the amazing seamlessness of how the colours blend into each other?…You get the picture. As we grow, we learn. Once we get to a certain age, we learn how to take care of ourselves, we have some life experiences, get into a bit of trouble and figure it out, have to make a couple choices, relationships, moving, living alone…etc…after we gain some life experience, we think we pretty well know…everything…right? So, our parents and other people around us continue to try to parent us and give us advice, without it seeming like advice, and take heed and charge forward and continue to gain life experience. Then, as we get this experience, we start to see things about ourselves, patterns, behaviours etc. We start to see how much we thought we knew “back then” and how much we really didn’t know…which means as much as we think we know now, it must mean that we still don’t actually know anything because we are only so little into our lives and development (but at least now we are wise enough to see that we still have so much more to learn and experience! Ha!). One of my favourite ideas that I heard way back in a different part of my life, is this…there are a bunch of things that we know we know (I know how to cook, do yoga, sing, teach, drive, etc etc), and then there are a bunch of things that we know we DON’T know (I don’t know how to fly a plane, play the guitar, tap dance, build a car, etc etc)…and then there is the category of the things you DON’T KNOW YOU DON’T KNOW…IMAGINE IT! There are so many things I don’t know I don’t know, so I don’t even know that I want to know them or am yet to even discover them!! So, you see, the learning and experiencing is endless!!

OK, so here I sit, 5 days from the ten year anniversary from teaching my first class and I have been having floods of emotion and memories. I have never done anything for TEN years in a row! I have been remembering classes taught and classes taken. I have been remembering times of loving what I was doing and times of not loving it. Times of feeling I was in the right place and times of wondering what the hell I was doing. I have had moments and hours of physical strength and physical weakness, emotional strength and emotional weakness. I remember times of true pure happiness and bliss standing on a podium leading students…and I have also felt completely sad, frustrated, fearful, nervous, excited, joyful, scared, inspired…I can quite honestly say, in my now ten years of teaching this yoga, I have experienced every part of who I am in that yoga room, on the podiums of all the many schools and beaches and grassy yards and living rooms and poolsides and dreams that I have had the opportunity to teach a class in.

I have had many people say many things about the way I teach class, and about me because of it. I have had a couple of brutally honest things said to me through this process, but that is for another post. I will say this…the other day a student revealed to me (when talking about me having taught for 10 years), that I open the door more now.

It’s true. I do open the door more. And it’s true all the things people have said to me and about me. It’s true I’m tough. It’s true my class is tough. It’s true you will work hard in my class…if you want to. And it’s true I’m loving and caring and honest. In fact, all I need to say is I’m honest. Right? Honest is all of those things wrapped up together! To honestly teach something to someone from an honest place…isn’t that pretty well all things we could be all wrapped up in one big ball of awesomeness that sometimes hurts your feelings or stings the Ego a little…and it also lifts you up and fills your bucket and maybe strokes your Ego just a little. But it’s real and it’s true and it’s all of us. The parts we like and love and admire as well as the parts we hate and despise and are embarrassed of.

So, in my ten years of teaching yoga, I can honestly say that I have learned
So, in the past ten years, the biggest thing I have learned is

Huh. Apparently I have learned too many things and had too many life lessons and character building experiences that I can’t narrow it down. That was the last 10 years…and now, I am so excited to see what I can get up to in the NEXT 10 years!!

Until then, thank you to everyone. Seriously. Thanks. We’re all here at the same time, we might as well help eachother out!!

Love,
Ida xx

5.31.03-6.2.13 Ten Years!

5.31.03-6.2.13 Ten Years!


in this day and age, do women still really have to CHOOSE? I choose happiness.

Good morning, Yogis!! I have so many things on my mind these days, I actually have several blog posts half written because every time I want to write something I start the post but feel like I still have more to say!! Alas, eventually they will all get written…truth is, I think half of the stuff I write is for my own pure learning and growth! I find writing very theraputic, and often blogging and or/emailing a select few people is more like journalling for me than the actual outcome of sharing it….although, as I go though my life, I see more and more how sharing is as powerful to other people as the writing is to me. So, there you go.

I got up this morning and checked my mail and messages as I do most mornings. I came across a blog post of a young woman I know in Australia. I don’t know Ash very well, I originally met her a few years ago and have been friends on FB…so, as it goes, we comment on eachother’s photos, posts etc. Ash has an uber flexi spine and just graduated from chiropractic school…so, it’s fun to see what she’s up to. This morning, Ash had posted a link to her latest blog post, so I clicked over to see what she is up to these days. The blog post is titled “Twenty-Something Girls vs. Thirty-Something Women”. Well, as I am a thirty something woman and was once a twenty something girl, it piqued my interest…

As you can see, it inspired me to write my own post about the subject. Let me say this, and I say it with the knowledge that I am only 39, so there are all sorts of women who are older than I am who probably think the same thing I am about to write to the younger women of the world right now, but I will say it anyways because if my life continues to get better and better as I get older (as it has been until now) then I will gladly listen to the women who are my senior because I understand that aging is about knowledge and growth and moving forward. Aging is not about growing old and withering up until your time here is done.

(I will get back to Ash’s blog in a minute, stay with me…)

I often look around at people (people who live right here and I know, as well as people like movie stars and musicians-people who are in the lime light and have their lives spread all over the media), and I find it interesting to see which people live life to it’s fullest for themselves and then as they age, they do other things, more things, new things…and some stay rooted in the old things they did, but maybe not doing said things as well as they once did and yet still trying to hold on to how they once were. Isn’t life about growth and new exploration? If we are constantly holding on to the things we did in the years gone by, then we are constantly living in the past, in the what once was, not living in the possibility of what else is to come!! I will admit I have tried to hold on to things that felt good in the past but don’t feel as good now in the hopes that by holding on tight and forcing things to be a certain way, said things would make me happy again. Not the case. It is only in my embracing the experiences of the past that I feel so much more empowered and inspired to do other more awesome things moving forward!! By aknowledging my accomplishments and having them be a part of what has built up who I am TODAY, I can feel strong and confident to create even more amazing things than I have already done! By holding on to the past and the things that I accomplished back then only seems to lead me down a dark path of disappointment. Living in the past puts a set of expectations on me, which only leads to feeling inadequate or not good enough, not as I once was. pffff, who would want to feel like that??!!

I will use my yoga practice as an example (of course). I worked very very hard at my yoga practice. I trained and yoga-ed for hours every day. I ate specific things at specific times and everything in my life was about my yoga practice (or so I thought). I accomplished high ranking in the competitive yoga world and taught myself sooooo much about who I am and how I operate and how I want to be in this world. I am ever great-ful for my time spent in that mind frame and arena…and now I am ever great-ful for NOT being in that place anymore!! I have spent many moments wishing I could perform the yoga postures as I once did, wishing my body was a lean and flexible as it once was, thinking I should start practicing like I did before, prove it’s never too late, blah blah blah. Fortunately, the work I have been doing on my spiritual self has brought me to a different place. I no longer look at my past as something that I will never accomplish again, I hold that part of my life as a massive learning time! I cherish what I learned from that experience and am so happy to be moving forward with other things, with new things, with more amazing things in my life!! Life is not about moving backwards, life is about moving forwards!! Good one, huh?

So, let me now get back to the blog post that started this whole thing this am…

In Ash’s blog she says, 

In modern day times, women are now procrastinating in seeking marital status. The priorities have changed. The modern day woman is more career driven and is prepared to put on hold love, marriage and kids in order to achieve financial stability, security and status all on their own!

The fall back? Well, that is plainly obvious; by the time these women are ready, the men and partnership they seek may no longer be available. They have missed the train!! Men want young nubile women. Not women in their 30s as their counterparts. This is rather discerning for the generation of women who are in the third or fourth decade of their lives who find themselves still single. This is not a joke, and not one to be apologizing for. It simply and sadly is a fact.

uh…..really? We’ve “missed the train”? There is absolutely no part of me, as a 39 year old woman, that feels that I have “missed the train” when it comes to men and relationships. This is one of the things I was talking about when I said that I will happily listen to women who are older than I am because I have learned so much about myself in this world in the past few years that I finally understand why all women say the same thing….”wait til you’re 40″. Seriously, the past few years I have said countless number of times that I am excited for 40 because if it is any better than it already has been at 37, 38, 39, then the doors are about to be blown off with magnificence and amazingness!! 

The original post is about men and dating and how it changes in your 20’s and then into your 30’s. She talks about the men who are interested in the women, how as younger women we seek older men for stability and the older men like the younger women because of their…well, youth…and then as women get older (their 30’s), the men are either all taken or scared of the confident woman who has “chosen her career over romance” (my words not hers) and then we (the women) are left with the young men who see us as a sugar mama, or else we are left alone… (this is not exactly what Ash is saying, but it was the catalyst for me and my thoughts). 

So here’s the thing…dating can be weird at any age. I have the good fortune to have some really awesome kids in my life. I am currently witnessing the growth and development of puberty and intimacy and seeing how confidence can be found and lost in other people…from such a young age…in the arena of romantic relationships. It’s fun and interesting to re-live some memories of myself in my teenage years as I watch “my” kids grow and develop. I have never really been a “dater”. I have been on several dates, but for the most part my relationships have always jumped to relationships pretty quickly and I have never really been a casual dater. So, as my lifestyle has changed over the years, I have spent most of the past few years on the road, travelling and not spending much time in one place. Because I have chosen this,  my dating and relationship life has been more challenging interesting than it has been before. Do I feel like my time has passed? Nope. Do I feel that the pool of men is too small now? Nope. Do I feel like I chose my career over having a family? Nope. DO WOMEN REALLY STILL HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HAVING A CAREER AND HAVING A FAMILY??!! Seriously?

Your life is at your fingertips. Your life is what you make it. Your life, your love, your relationships, your money, your confidence, your intimacy, your family, your friends, your outlook, your career…your everything is how you make it. The world is like an energy fountain, energy flows freely and is infinite! It is what you do with this energy that determines your happiness and how you see yourself as happy and successful. So, if having a career is important to you then go out and do it and when/if a family and relationship become important to you then go out and do that too. Be open to anything and everything. If love is what you seek then love yourself. If health and well being is what you seek then send out health and well being into the Universe. If peace is what you seek, then create peace around you and set your intention to share peace with everyone around you. 

Get it?I love my life. I am confident in myself as a 39 year old woman. I am single. For now…and I never, ever, feel that I have missed ANY train…and if I did, guess what, there is always another one on the way. Remember the Law of Attraction, give out what you want to get. Louise Hay puts it simply and beautifully here, “The law of attraction is that our thinking creates and brings to us whatever we think about,” she says. “It’s as though every time we think a thought, every time we speak a word, the universe is listening and responding to us.

It’s that simple…living in fear of what you don’t have will only keep you focused and rooted in lack…in this world, we are all abundant-whether it’s in love, career, money, family etc. 

Thank you Universe for this abundance. 

Now, go out and be awesome!!!

Love,

Ida

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